AT FIFTY- THREE, WHY ARE THE MEN "FALLING OUR HANDS"

At fifty-three, why are the men ‘falling our hands?’

The language used above, ‘falling our hands’ is a Nigerian lingo with contextual meaning ‘disappointing us’

In the spirit of independence celebration in Nigeria at 53, I write by the Spirit of God this morning on the kind of man every lady wants as a husband, every child wants as a father and that God wants as a child. Share this with every man in your life, dad, brother, uncle, fiance, husband, and so on!

The lady speaks
I want a man, a real man, man enough to be my husband, strong enough to stand in his place as the head of the house and the breadwinner. I want a man who is a king and a servant at the same time. I want a man whose royalty is rooted in God, I want a man I can be proud enough to
call ‘my crown!’ I want a man who despite being a king is humble enough to have the heart of a servant.

I want a man I can call my own! A man I am proud of! I want a man of integrity. I want a man whose words I can go to bed on. I want a man who will protect me. I want a man that will not want me to compromise my virtue in order to satisfy his lust during courtship.

I want a man who will be my head and not my headache! I want a man who will love me properly, accept me as I am, nurture me, and commit to my spiritual development.

I want a man that will stand by me in the labour room. The hands of Zerubabbel started it. It ought to complete it! I want a man I can vouch for. I want a man that will love me only and no other. I want a man that is thinking of me all the time. I want a man, not a boy.

I want a man that will not bring another to our matrimonial bed. I want a man who fears God so much and will not desecrate our marital covenant because of lust. I want a man that will rather die than become adulterous! I want a man that will respect the covenant and will not throw our home into untold chaos and havoc by his actions. I want a man that can zip up! 

I want a man in the house that will usher me into peace when I am not around. I want a man in the house that the house-help is safe with. I want a man who has self-control. 

I want a man that can lay hands on me and bless me. I want a man that I can rely on emotionally. I want a man whose shoulders I can lean on. I want a man that will lead our family to God. 

I want a leader in the house! I want a man who will make my heart bless him and not make my heart bleed at his appearance. I want a man that will make my heart to be filled with thanks and not tears. I want man that will make me be at rest and not under duress! I want a man that will make me his queen and not his doormat! I want friend, confidant and companion not a  competitor!

The child speaks
I want a dad in the real sense of it. I want a dad whose confidence, leadership, courage and examples inspire me. 

I want a dad who will not usher my budding destiny into smoking and drinking and clubbing by transference of spirits. I want a dad who will pay the price just so for me to emerge. I want a dad I can bless and not regret in the years to come. I want a dad I can call my own, not an absentee dad.

I want a dad that will truly love my mum. I want a dad that will not mess up my inclinations and outlook by bringing in so many ‘mums’ into his bed. I want a dad that will not teach me to lie. I want a dad that will not make my malleable emotions and innocent tendencies to gravitate into the world of sexual perversion.

I want a dad that prays for me, a dad that I am proud of, a dad I am close to and a dad I can discuss everything with! I want a dad that will not touch me (girl child) inappropriately. I want a dad who will not sexualize me. I want a dad who will teach me how to love my spouse when the time comes in a pragmatic way.

God speaks
I want a man that will lift up holy hands in my presence. I want a man compelled and propelled by sense of destiny. I want a man I can bless and prosper who will not withhold from my kingdom. I want a man that can be my mouthpiece at home and at work. I want a man I can place my anointing on!

I want a man that will not falsify documents. I want a man that will be faithful to his wife. I want a man that I can make a channel of blessing others. I want man that will not bow. I want a man king enough to bear my message, lamb enough to refuel in my presence.

I want a humble man, I want a man I can bless to bless others. I want a channel, not a dam! I want man I can exalt who will exalt others, not an intimidated and insecure man who is yielded to the flesh all the time. I want a man that can raise sons, and not add sores into other destinies. I want a man who knows that my kingdom is perpetuated in lifting others and not putting them down.

I sought for a man. I want a man who will repair destinies and not wreck them. I want a man that will remember where I picked him from and not mutilate other destinies. I want a man that is conscious he will stand before me one day, to give account of all he has done.

I want man who forgives easily, and not one who will churn out weapons in his arsenal to destroy others. I want a man I can use to lift burdens off others and not add more.

I want a man who will not use my name to manipulate ladies into adulterous relationships! I want a man who will not use the grace I have given him to bring disgrace into my kingdom!

I want man who will not try to build ‘his kingdom’ at the expense of my kingdom. I want a man I can trust with my power and riches. I want a man who is not lost to satisfying himself at the expense of others. I want a man who will not use the wisdom and the platform I have given him to manipulate destinies and leave them warped at the end. I want a man whose heart is after me!

I sought for man!

Ezekiel 22:30 
And I sought for a man among them… 

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
Lord, make me into the kind of man you want

PRAYERS FOR THE DAY
Lord, strengthen daily to withstand every kind of pressures in Jesus name.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY

1 Corinthians 13:11 
When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
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